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The Twelve Steps of Co-Dependents Anonymous
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The Twelve Traditions of Co-Dependents Anonymous
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| 1. We admitted we were powerless over others - that our lives had become unmanageable. | 1. Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon CoDA unity. |
| 2. Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. | 2. For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority -- a loving higher power as expressed to our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern. |
| 3. Made a decision to turn our will and lives over to the care of God as we understood God. | 3. The only requirement for membership in CoDA is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. |
| 4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. | 4. Each group should remain autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or CoDA as a whole. |
| 5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being, the exact nature of our wrongs. | 5. Each group has but one primary purpose -- to carry its message to other codependents who still suffer. |
| 6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. | 6. A CoDA group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the CoDA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary spiritual aim. |
| 7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings. | 7. A CoDA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions. |
| 8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. | 8. Co-Dependents Anonymous should remain forever non-- professional, but our service centers may employ special workers. |
| 9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. | 9. CoDA, as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve. |
| 10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. | 10. CoDA has no opinion on outside issues; hence the CoDA name ought never be drawn into public controversy. |
| 11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry that out. | 11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, and films. |
| 12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other codependents, and to practice these principles in all our affairs. | 12. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions; ever reminding us to place principles before personalities. |
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The Long Island CoDA meetings listed on this page are open to anyone who has a desire for healthy & loving relationships.
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